Paul told us we choose our eternity: “Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.” (Phillipians 2:12)

You didn’t quote a scripture when you said the Bible says every man would hear of Jesus before death, but I think you can easily see this isn’t true. It’s likely you’ve misunderstood something you read, which is easy to do in a Bible that was translated into other languages by fallable men. There have been many people who lived in primitive, isolated places that did not hear of Christ. Certainly, when He lived on the earth, only a few people saw Him or heard of Him. There were many others far away who did not, since we didn’t have modern technology to spread the word. Also, infants sometimes die, and not having language skills or knowledge, they are unable to choose to accept Christ as their Savior. A loving God will not punish an infant for dying prior to having that opportunity. Some adults never gain the intellectual or emotional level required to be accountable for their choices.

Sometimes people hear, but only with their heads, not their hearts. Many have heard of Christ intellectually, but have not received a testimony to their hearts of His divinity. Some receive that much later than when they first hear, but others never do, and only God knows who received that testimony in his lifetime. Mormons teach that God is both loving and fair, and salvation is not a random event beyond our control. Each person is treated lovingly and justly by a Father in Heaven who knows his heart and loves him.

The disclaimer is responsible and honest–we don’t want anyone thinking we’re official in any way. Some things we write about are also our own personal experiences or interpretations, such as when a person here writes about an experience he had and what he think it means. You’re learning what ordinary Mormons see in their religion.

In the Doctrine and Covenants, we’re taught: “For all have not every agift given unto them; for there are many gifts, and to every man is given a gift by the Spirit of God.
12 To some is given one, and to some is given another, that all may be profited thereby.” (Doctrine and Covenants 46:11.)

The point of this scripture is to show all types of gifts are valued, none more than others. They are all given to allow us, if used wisely, to serve others. However, God gave us different gifts and different ways to serve.

There are many good and wonderful gifts and opportunities. For instance, giving birth is a wonderful gift, but God didn’t choose to give that gift to men. He could have, I presume, but He didn’t. It doesn’t demean men in any way that they are not able to give birth. It simply doesn’t happen to be the way God chose for them to serve.

Singing with a beautiful voice is also a glorious way to serve, but I wasn’t given that gift. I was, however, given other gifts. For instance, I can serve in the nursery and even be sorry when the day ends.

The point I wanted to make is that God is not demeaning anyone by not giving them every possible gift. While we can’t hold the priesthood, we can bless lives in other ways. While men can’t have babies, they can nurture children in other ways. A man can’t be the Relief Society president, but he can be the Elder’s Quorum president.

Gifts are chosen for us by God, and it’s critical that we accept the divine roles of gender in order to honor and respect the person God created us to be.

You might also look at the Family Home Evening section for activity ideas.
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